AI as the Best Version of You: Not a Job Killer, but a Human Amplifier

There was a time when everything was dark. Only a small segment of society knew how to apply to elite colleges. Most people, especially those without access to information, had no idea where to start, how to apply, or even how to afford the process. Many quit high school not because they lacked ambition, but because they lacked a clear path to higher education.

Back in my day, applying to just three colleges took at least 30 days. We needed to physically gather applications, arrange for bank cashier checks, and send everything by registered post. Today, in 2025, my son applied to 12 colleges in a single day. This is more than a technological improvement — it's a transformation of accessibility and equality.

Social media brought another major shift. It became a powerful tool to broadcast individual voices to the world. However, as platforms grew, so did the noise: bots, fake news, trolling, and memes started dominating the space. Ironically, while everyone technically has a voice now, very few use it authentically. The fear of backlash and the flood of inauthentic content discourage honest participation. Less than 1% of people raise their true voice online today.

Recently, I was shocked to read that Meta has started rolling back some AI-based content flagging in favor of manual community checks. This reflects a deeper issue: fear. People see AI as a job killer and a threat to data integrity. But here’s the truth — when something generates fear at scale, it means it holds real value.

Let’s take a simple use case: job search. Today, many job portals aggregate listings from various boards. They provide filters and parameters to help users find the best fit. In this sense, the user acts like an AI agent — carefully selecting jobs using precise criteria.

But the reality is, not everyone is great at narrowing down options. An offensive player can't always play defense well. Similarly, not all human minds are equally equipped for strategic filtering. This is where AI can shine — by acting as the best version of you. An AI can help find the right job that matches your unique skills, soft skills, and experience. It becomes an extension of your decision-making, not a replacement.

And this idea scales. AI can help you find the best credit card, optimize your monthly budget, or suggest purchases based on personal needs and limits. Will this cause some job loss? Yes — in the immediate sense. But long-term, this kind of precision will grow the economy. If I save $150 this month thanks to AI, I might donate more or spend on something meaningful. Balanced budgets lead to healthier lives, and AI helps us get there.

So, let’s not fear AI. Let’s fine-tune it to amplify the best in each of us.

Meta Already Built the Graph. Now Build the Agent.

Meta Already Built the Graph. Now Build the Agent.

🚀 Vision

Meta doesn’t need more users, more data, or more platforms. It already connects billions of people, habits, histories, and emotional patterns across Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, and now Ray-Ban smart glasses.

It already owns the greatest living map of human interaction.
Now it needs to build the agent that can live inside it.

🔑 The Spark: From Social Graph to Personal Agent

Meta’s social graph isn’t just names and faces — it’s:

• Emotional closeness
• Behavioral timing
• Language patterns
• Relationship relevance

This is everything an AI agent needs to become useful, human-like, and trusted.

The agent doesn’t just respond — it represents. It should:

• Know who matters to you
• Filter what’s urgent vs noise
• Speak with your tone
• Act on your behalf (schedule, reply, plan)

And it can do this because Meta already knows your digital relationships better than any other company.

📐 Functional Expression of the Agent

Figure: Visual representation of the agent flow — from user input, social context, and environment, through an AI core to a minimal smart glass output.

To describe the agent's intelligence:

PersonalAgentResponse = f(SocialGraph, Context, UserIntent)

Where:

• SocialGraph = relationships + emotional weight + history
• Context = time + location + environment + active device
• UserIntent = derived from voice, gaze, behavior patterns

Another behavior rule:

AgentAction = IF(Urgency > Threshold AND Relevance > 0.7, THEN NotifyUser)

This logic keeps the agent calm, intelligent, and emotionally aware.

👓 The Interface: Ray-Ban Smart Glasses

The hardware exists. It’s stylish, non-invasive, and always with you. The smart glasses become:

• The window to your agent
• A non-distracting display of relevant insight
• A subtle way to stay connected without grabbing a phone

The glasses + the graph + the agent = the next OS for real life.

🛰️ The Backbone: Satellite or Cloud Sync

To break phone dependence, use:

• Satellite (Starlink-class) mesh
• Edge cloud sync
• Encrypted identity layer

Your agent doesn’t live on your phone. It lives with you, anywhere on Earth.

🌱 What This Enables

• Digital minimalism, without disconnection
• Emotional intelligence at scale
• Real ambient computing, finally
• A graceful end to the phone era

💬 Closing Thought

Meta doesn’t need to collect more. It needs to act on behalf of the user, with empathy and intelligence. The graph is already built. Now build the agent.

The world is ready. The spark is here.

Becoming Whole Again: A Journey Through SEL, Identity, and Integration

Like so many others, I came to the United States on June 1, 2000, searching for better opportunities. But my journey was shaped not just by ambition—it was shaped by battles most never see. One of them was Spinal Epidural Lipomatosis (SEL), a rare condition that quietly invaded my body and slowed my steps while the world kept moving. For years, I was navigating more than culture. I was navigating pain, fear, and confusion. Integration into a new country wasn’t just about language or food or emails that said "please" too much. It was about survival — physically, emotionally, and socially.

The Invisible Burden

SEL made me retreat inward. Conversations became shorter. Emotions are quieter. My presence in the room, dimmer. How do you integrate into a culture when your body won’t let you participate fully in your own? Healing took time — six months ago, my symptoms began to resolve. But healing isn’t just the body’s work. It’s the mind catching up, the identity re-emerging.

Integration Is Not Just About Adaptation

People talk about integration like it’s a checklist. Learn the language. Get the job. Celebrate Thanksgiving. But true integration is deeper — it’s the slow rebuilding of a self that feels whole in this context, in this new land. And that takes time. Not just time to change — but time to observe the change, to process the new rhythms, to test the emotional weather of this culture. And when you’ve gone through years of physical suffering, the world feels too fast to catch up to. You need stillness before motion.

Where I Stand Now

I’m not who I was before SEL. I’m not who I was when I first arrived in America. I’m becoming someone who blends the resilience of pain, the clarity of recovery, and the evolving understanding of two cultures. And that process — this integration — is not a weakness. It’s a living intelligence, still unfolding. So if you see someone still figuring things out, give them time. They may not just be adapting to a country — they may be meeting themselves for the first time, without pain, without fear, and with a future they’re only beginning to trust.

Evolve

This subject is more than what I can fathom. But try to make some sense out of it. Evolution is important for all of us, particularly people who come from developing countries (I’m talking about 1970/1980s India). We start from a very basic life, basic lifestyle, basic needs and we live our life very minimum level. Millions of us were born and died without evolving much, it was not their mistake, we did not have many opportunities back then other than agriculture. The evolution became mainstream after India opens the market for all and the economic revolution during the 1990s. We marched towards the 21st century with various options rather than some mere options. When I start thinking more, there are more people still living in the same way of life which we used in the 1970s and 1980s. They are missing or not joining the greater economic revolutions which started back in the early 1990s. For almost 25 years we have had this opportunity wide open, but people are not boarded with the evolution. I identified several factors involved in these impediments. They are as follows.
Ego: I believe still we are thinking superior in our mind even though we are not. This is mainly happening to higher caste people. They think that they are still higher based on caste or religion and not willing to take part in opportunities available throughout the world. They are stuck in a false sense of mind.
Apathy: This is another thing lacking some people due to a enough mindset rather than a scarcity mindset. The scarcity mindset is important for the young generation, they need to search more and more to improve their lives and to evolve.
Addiction: Addicted to some substances/places/routines are the other reason not to evolve much. So many people are stuck in the same place because they have some addiction with some form

Boilerplate Life

Humble and honesty has no value in society now. The statement occurred in my mind one day. So, I started thinking about it. Now this time of our era, we no need to show our intangible qualities to get a job or business. All we need is to follow some well-documented ways to get there, follow some preconceived notions. For example, if you want to become a Software Developer at Amazon, join a boot camp and learn all the fundamentals of computer science, Kids are bought up to be successful in a documented way as well. Parents teach kids a certain way to become successful in their life by imposing some tangible ways. We don’t care about being humble or honest rather we asked them to follow some flow chart documentation to be successful. It is not their mistake as well; the way of life now yields great results. The young generation is getting good-paying jobs by just following some well-documented paths. Is it good? I would say we are losing some human creativity in this process, we are building a machine kind of human.

It was very dark night, no moon light, Yasin and Ahmed decided to go their paddy for watering. Night time water is good for rice. Hasina was afraid to send her kids to water at this light. She lost her husband to snake bite 3 years ago, when he went for watering paddy at this dark night. Farmers life becoming very difficult nowadays, they are struggling to keep up their life. Labor shortage, high price and small land are the persisting issues.

Hasina said “Yasin please take torch light and be careful” to sons. But Yasin and Ahmed decided not to take torch light and they decided to go out to reach paddy with their muscle memory. Farmers has good muscle memory, they are good drivers, and good at reflex. They have good sense of direction as well. In country side, mostly farmers used to say which direction wind blowing and when it would change direction without any devices.

Yasin and Ahmed reached paddy and start watering paddy. The place where they have paddy has lot of water and good place for cultivating rice. The water is not an issue for them. Yasin went inside rice field to check water level. Rice need very delicate water level, it should not very low and very high. Farmers are naturally perfectionist. It is not because they want to but the profession needs to be them as perfectionist. Farmers need to be vigilant and always intense with their work.

Farming is world’s oldest profession, the farming giving excellent qualities for a human to become perfect human. May be the profession is now not very attractive to current young generation but it is an excellent source for our health and wealth. But Yasin and Ahmed young, still love their farming like their father and grandfather. Because they knew the farmers and farming are the gift from god. But the snake is still there somewhere in the paddy, Yasin keep on walking inside paddy to check the water. The snake is same venomous one it bites his father 3 years ago.

Unfortunately, Yasin step into the snake and it bite him hardly. Yasin shouted to Ahmed “Ahmed, I think I got bit by snake”, Ahmed run towards Yasin and he reached Yasin within seconds and he gave first aid by tearing his short and tightly tied to keep venom from spreading. Ahmed is tensed to save his brother. He takes his brother to main road, luckily, they found a car and they reached hospital on time so they saved Yasin.

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Warrior

I love Warrior stories; warriors are exciting personalities. They get a blessing from their mother's humble state and then within a short amount of time they have to be in war zone aggressive state. I always wondered when I heard some warriors’ stories, how come they switch context from two different states. The context switching is an extraordinary ability, multitasking is something different from context switching. The warriors need some small amount of time to context switching but for us ordinary people we can’t change state as soon as we want to, for example, one of the playoffs Tony Romo QB from Dallas Cowboys asked to hold the ball for a kick, but he screwed up big time. He was a trained QB but suddenly he was asked to hold a ball for the kick. I think this is something context switching. When I was a beginner to code, I had some issues with context switching, for example, I was asked to code Java and then same day other tasks related to SQL and some tasks related to JavaScript. This is first I felt a little uncomfortable but I developed a technique to overcome.

1. Warriors at least I saw in movies, when they go to mother always in war suit, warriors need this feel because they want to think about war as soon as they wore the suit. So, use the same IDE for all technology. For example, use IntelliJ for Java, JavaScript, SQL development. 
2. Warriors get the blessing from their mother with their blood, they usually use the sword, when we change from emotional states, we need a continuation to the next emotional state. The war is next state hence the drop of the blood is an indication of change state. If we know the next task beforehand with other languages, JavaScript to Java is a little easy than JavaScript to SQL. So, order it based on previous language’s end.
3. Warriors go to mother’s room alone, as soon as they come out, they are surrendered by soldiers and warriors go to the war zone with a long walk along with soldiers to gain some knowledge. This is very important; we have to take time for context switching from one technology to others and make sure to talk with who is responsible for the new task and new domains. Don’t rush through for new tasks unless it is the same technology and the same domain.
4. I think there is a reason, why this custom followed by warriors, it will take some time for warriors to go for a full force from full humble to full aggressive. This technique is to give warriors not to use full aggressive force if the enemy is not that strong. This delay allows them to get access to enemy force capacity and their tactics. The same applied to us as well, delay your task a little late and read some articles.

Diversification

What are the benefits living in a diversified society? In any fields diversification is really good and offers more advantages than disadvantages. Here are some usual points about living diversified society.

• For most we can learn good habits from other culture in diversified society. Each culture has some unique good habits and we can learn it from them. It is a boon for living diversified society.
• Second most important thing is we can enjoy variety of foods rather than repeated same food from a non-diversified. 
• Learning different languages is other benefit, just try to understand it is good for our brain.
• Kids will grow with more tolerance since they are expose to various cultures at very young age.

Opinion

After all this information overload age, there is abundance of opinions formed among individuals for almost everything. We are not feared to express it and our opinion reached to our friends and relatives very fast through social media. Is this good or bad? Having an opinion about everything is normally considered good practice but how to handle it as a receiver. All the opinion has value or who is reliable and who is telling truth? Here are some escapes and verify techniques.

• Always believe owner’s opinion, if we own something and gives our opinions (review) of product that’s always seems to me right. Best place to see this customer reviews from web sites. Majority opinion always wins and very first opinion about the product always seems to me correct

• Opinion backed up by data and facts always valid. Read articles and measurement reports from measurement/analytic companies like Nielsen, comScore, Wakoopa, and Hitwise. 

• Opinion comes from Opinionated people can be avoidable but listen to them. Who is opinionated people? People who has no respect to other’s opinion are opinionated people.

• Be confident on your decisions. Whether you are making good decisions or bad decisions just think that you will overcome it. Other’s opinions should not derail your decisions.

• Measure other opinions. Are they just have opinion or passionate opinion? We can follow passionate opinion people. 

Uncontrolled Musing

When I start thinking about future, my mind exploding without control, particularly current events and state of our economy. There is no definite answer to following questions.

1. Are we at recession or depression or nothing?
2. Occupywallstreet will become a revolutionary movement or just like tea party, it will also subside?
3.  President Obama able to win job bill or it will go under water.
4.  If we are not in recession, what is the status of this market?
5. What will happen to 401k, IRA and other investments?
6.  Are we bear market or bull market or pig?
7. How many more days (months/years) we need to worry about our job?
8.  When will my home value improves?

The above all are somehow interrelated, a better economy spurs growth which will eliminate all uncertainty. But no one here able to pin point what went wrong and how to fix it. If we know the answer, we could have somehow fixed this mess already.The issues with unable to fix current state of economy are,

Very complicated: This economy structure is complicated than before. Globalization added more complex. No one can predict what is going on in the economy.

Baby Boomers: There are more social welfare created by baby boomers which strains our economy. Politian can’t touch these because fear of losing vote bank

Weak Banks:  Strong economy needs strong banks but now banks are weaker and to make things worse, European banks holds sovereign bonds, those are vulnerable to default.

Aged population: Developed nations are facing more and more aged population, which creates social burden

Other Reasons: Low consumer confidence, deteriorating housing market, high fuel cost, weakness in emerging market etc

What will happen – A radical perspective

So what will happen next, that’s the question pop up everyone’s mind. But most of us and most of the time deep dive into current events to get confused. But I think answer is very clear than we think. We will be like this for some time, 15-20 years.

Japan Model: We are exactly now at the state of Japan model. Since 1980s Japan economy is in very slow growth but it didn’t become depression because some companies did really well. The same thing happening here also, the stocks like Apple, Amazon are doing great in spite of bad market condition. This trend will continue for near future.

Housing market: Price will recover in some places quicker than others, for example, in Midwest some manufacturing activities could spur growth than Sun Belt southern states.

Stock Market: For next decade or so, we can experience some highs and lows of stock market. Stock market will oscillate between highs and lows very often. The conventional wisdom of “Invest in low to make money in high” may be obsolete. The new wisdom is “invest in right companies and forget it”.

Job Market: Job market is something hangs on in middle because cash rich companies have to hire and others also hire because of baby boomer’s retirement. The part time jobs will become big market.

Workalcoholics

Are you a workalcoholic? 

If your answer is “no”, most likely you are an anti social because our culture always praise workalcoholism. Why we are over working? First I thought, work giving some satisfaction and it’s linked some form of happiness. Work place regularly praise Workalcoholics, the instant reward makes a surge of happiness.

During this economic meltdown, most of us become workalcoholics,the ever increasing weekly work hours from government report supports that assertion. So workalcoholicism based on fear, i think the instant rewards now become obsolete but still more and more people over working meaning, workalcoholicism is based on fear.

But unfortunately working based on fear will not yield good results.Its again and again proved that free environment provides creative working culture and more productivity. Most of workalocoholics think of more work hence they won’t think finishing work 100% but open for more work.

How to avoid become workalocoholicsim? 

1.  Unknown leads to fear, fear leads to stress, stress leads to over work, at same time it increases health risks. So always be with knowns. What you good with, be with it.
2. Update with latest improvements. The more you know about latest technology, news, less you worry about current job. This stops fear and over work.
3. Life is meaningful without work also. Most of millionaires are not over worked; they are creative and self employed.
4. Prioritize and prepare. Do some homework. 1 hour of homework will eliminate 3 hours of real work if we plan and prepare for it.
5. Don’t think more you work you get more raise and bonus.

Façade

I usually drive by the million dollar home daily twice. One of the kind façade and fantastic architecture, and flawless house. Yesterday when as usual I drive by, they were painting their mail box which was looking great to me though. I started wondering why they are obsessed with façade, why they want to perfect on everything. I thought I was right, because we are spending too much resource for façades and other unimportant things in our life for me those are show off. After some time, I started realized that those are needed to show our hard work, dedication, commitment and determination rather than show off wealth.

 Life is not to live as we wanted to live but there should be some meaning. We want to show others that we are capable of doing something, doing something unique. It is completely opposite to liberal point of view of everyone is equal. But at same time, most of us not ready to take that part of wisdom, so jump into conclusion based on façade. In order to satisfy all, giving importance to façade is not just show off.

                So a beautiful façade with a weak backyard is okay? But that depends on whom we ask, but conventional wisdom is “Internal beauty can be visible through façade”. 

Inspiration and desperation

We inspire with others, we follow, and we prosper together. But after sometime the trailblazer stops blazing, what to do now? Desperation or continue our journey. Most of the time people stop doing what they did by inspiring others. I spent quite some time but none were discussed about this topic.

For example, U.S.A is leader of world, they led all war and other’s followed and fought with them. Now in Libya, U.S.A due to internal pressure not leading and war against Gaddafi stalled. The leader stopped leading others and all are collapsed or not effective as before. Why this is happening? How to avoid it?

1.       Don’t abuse leaders: When leaders leading something, don’t take everything grated rather use the opportunity to learn and document it.

2.       Document all the advice: When leaders giving advice when they are leading those are not just advice, those are insights and priceless piece of wisdom and document it.

3.       Don’t question leaders: Leaders say something with in context always, don’t ask question and don’t ignore those. All are very effective because leaders won’t talk for talking.

4.       No middle ground: If we inspire with others, we have to align with leaders all the time. There is no middle ground. The actions which are taken by leaders should be committed. If we follow leader without committed we can’t repeat it when leaders not present.

Actually once we start following leaders, we have to become that leader after some point of time. Leadership main objective is creating as many as leaders.

How to live Happy?

1. Nothing is constant. Be prepared for changes. One day driving Benz car may not be same next day, we may have to drive bi cycle. Life is full of changes.

2. Don’t try to change others unless they are willing to go through transforms which is very rare.

3. Don’t say what ever we think through our mind. There is always some polish needed for good personal relationship.

4. Plan it, invest it, make money work for you, not that you work for money

5. Daily read some spiritual books or tell mantra.Keep your brain clean from negative thoughts.

6. Be honest with everyone, if can’t, if we have to tell lies then that’s sign of withdraw from that entity.

7. Don’t afraid of destroying some. I mean liquidate somethings.

8. Tell good things about others, may some extra also fine.

9. Keep time, bond with it, time will give you health and wealth.

10. Last but not the least, always smile even when we are in dire situation.

Negativity & English

We witnessed Team India's classic way of losing a Cricket game against modest form but talented Cricket team yesterday. One point of time, we were looking so good to win the game but next moment we weren’t. Historically if we take most of Indian Cricket lost, 90% of time (hypothetically speaking) team possessed greater chance of winning at some point of game but still managed to lose.

Why we are suddenly become negativity?

Why we are losing even though all are pointing to right direction?

Why we are still stuck with service industry but not booming in technology?

Why we can’t think positive always, if positive why we think negative next moment?

I’m thinking about it ever since I can think but the answer still elusive, but based on my opinion, the way we acquired English language from British contributing most of our Negative thinking.

My conclusion is,

When British colonized India they carefully spread negative words, in many cases, they want to look better than their peer Indians hence they used lot of negative words which become custom in Indian English language.

Passion vs. Addiction

I never ever heard the word ‘passion’ from Indian English language.  If one is very much into something not socially acceptable then we labeled them addicted NOT passionate. Just imagine, passion is something positive, encouraging but addiction is something negative which make the target thinking negatively.

Determination vs. Adamant

Something like Passion, determination is not a common word in Indian English but we substitute wrongly adamant. But determination is a very positive word but adamant created a negative feeling.

I can go on and on, but matter of fact is, people who ever speaks pure form of their mother tongue  used very less negative words, they naturally very positive people. But who speaks mixed form of language (50-50 English and mother language) are the one tilt to negative.  I’m here pointing out why we become negative when we are absolute positive not the trait of positive and negative person.

Jack in the box

“You are lacking out of the box thinking?”, the statement very common in our white collar profession. The statement mostly used when politicized situation or performance review. Actually what exactly is “out of the box thinking”, as per Wikipedia

“Thinking outside the box is to think differently, unconventionally or from a new perspective. This phrase often refers to novel or creative thinking.”

There are several engineers, developers’ gets this feedback regularly but honestly they don’t know what exactly the reviewer meant. Based on my opinion, “out of the box thinking” is something innate ability or one has to go through elite schooling to get that, so who ever lucky to born with that are the best? I think there is something wrong with this notion, we are pushing people who are not really lacking “out of the box”. But there is something they are missing too. What is that? I think the answer is, most of them are “above average but narrow minded”. Narrow minded is not a bad thing; it is just a trait which can be easily changed.

Even a law written by several top-notch lawmakers and reviewed by several pundits, we have loop holes here and there. So are they missing “out of the box thinking”? I don’t think so, law should cover all possible permutation and combination but most of the law lacking this, which is, mainly because some “narrow minded” compromise and some "narrow minded" people genuinely missing to see some big picture. The same applies to software development also, developers miss to big picture due to narrow minded not because “out of the box thinking”. What we need is training to change that character not unnecessary overloaded labels which are unable to change.    

Above & Beyond

Last decade’s most successful NFL organization is without a doubt New England Patriots (Pats). Even though their Super Star is Tom Brady, but Gem of New England Patriots team is Kevin Faulk. First of all, why he is called Gem of Pats?

1.    Loyal to his team, 11 years with Pats.
2.    3,550 rushing yard.
3.    16 rushing TD
4.    424 receiving and 3,667 receiving yard.
5.    Receiving TD 15

Based on his statistics, one can easily jump into conclusion that he is all-round player; hence he is qualified for Gem of Pats title. But the truth is different, Kevin started his career as Running Back, he was an excellent running back. During his tenure with Pats, over a period of time, his coach asked him to do other jobs also like full back, punt return. Those are not glamorous position in NFL, but Kevin took those jobs without any hesitant rather than quit to join other team as Running Back, which made him a Gem of his team with his astonishing all round performance.

Kevin’s success story makes me think something else which is very important to our changing world and lifestyle. Now we are living in a flat world where the luxury of doing one task per one human is gone. We can’t say “my job description is XYZ and you are asking me to do ABC”. The tasks outside of job description also have to be done as long as we can do it with or without some self-learning. 

There is nothing wrong that a developer tests an application, a architect helps developing some small piece of code, a manager runs some test scripts, a QA engineer debugging a code, a store manager checkout customer while sales clerk out for an emergency.

Advice – It’s all free

If advice is a commodity then it is mostly freely available/exchange commodity in this world. We are all ready to give advice to others about many things. In fact, based my unscientific research, 70-75% of our communication is advice but without advice one can’t reach our goals also. Because most of us inspire with someone who are capable or scholar and their advice are sermon to us. But the point is what to take, what to ignore are real challenge.

Advice from following topic from unprofessional can be ignored straight-out.

1.     Medical: This is no brainer, whenever we seek advice from a group of people, say 10 people; we would get 10 different advices from 10 different people.

2.     Investment: We all know about this, we had bitter experience again and again but we need to follow advice as is from professional or let them handle our finance. Most of us burnt our money because of half-cooked professional advice.

3.     Office politics: We should not take other’s advice anything related to workplace politics. Because workplace politics are very unique and no one in a position to determine what exactly happening inside a private organization, hence outsiders can’t fathom exactly what is happening to us, to make a judgment or advise us for better.

4.     Kid’s Education: This is also similar to Medical, 10 people gives 10 different advice. But we should about our kids and we have to make plan or assist them to choose their future.

5.     Time Management: We all have our unique way of doing our day by day activity hence we should not take other’s advice what to do what when how etc. We have to use our instinct to perform our activity.

6.     Shopping: Each one has their own opinion about what to buy where to buy and when to buy. Getting advice won’t help much. There are some instance where i bought some stuff based on my wife's advice but later on i wasn’t satisfied with it but i couldn’t throw it away because she might feel bad and i couldn’t use it because i didn’t like it. 

7.     Web sites: There are one trillion web sites are there now. Each of us comfortable with some, taking advice which one is good and what to read are not good.

Bottom Line

Any advice from spouse, parents, siblings, close friends, and well wishers (personal level) peers and supervisor (professional level) are considerable. We have to make fair judgment based on their advice, all others can be carefully consider if we are not sure about it, ignore it.

Cheer up

As soon as we are into New Year 2011, we are all some kind of jubilant mood and after some time it fade away. It is very natural but based on my research New Year is the one which creates lot of enthusiasm but won’t keep up. One of main reason is, weather wise January is dull month and most depressive day of the year falls on January 25^th that is exactly a month after Christmas, to add salt, all credit card bill start arriving on around last week of January which has most of our Christmas gift shopping.

As a blogger my job is to encourage all of you to keep up your new year resolutions and cheer up during these depressive days. 

Here are some tips.

1. Normal people set 1 or 2 goals and try to achieve at least 80-90% of end result. So don’t set some aggressive goals.
2. The average times before people to quit smoking are 9. So believe me, if you couldn’t keep up resolution please don’t depress try again and again.
3. Do most of fun activity during first months of a year. For example, i started blogging regularly from a January month which was very relaxing moments to forget weather and mind concentrated on one activity, now i’m helping my son to complete his Star wars Complete saga Xbox game, again believe me his yelling at me when i screwed up anything is really fun.
4.  Plan for spring and summer during January and February. Whenever i say plan that doesn’t mean that step by step project plan kind of thing. All we need is, if our resolution is weight less, and then read about bicycle, trails information’s,explore groups and get a complete picture of bicycling.
5. Resolutions are not made for New Year’s only. We can set resolutions any time of the year like birthdays, father day and anniversary etc.
6. Resolutions aren't final either, modify/add based on our own choices.
7. If your resolution is related to money/saving, then please use good money management software or use your bank’s online services.
8. Donate money to charity or volunteer during these initial months A) this time of year elderly and poor people need more help B) the satisfaction from that keep on us to roll this entire year.