A Personal Reflection: What If We Helped the Third Child Instead of Judging the Choice?

👋 To My Daughter—and To Anyone Willing to Listen

This isn’t a political post.
It’s not even about right or wrong.
It’s about something I lived—and something I still carry in silence:

No one said it directly, but I could feel it in the background:

  • The financial pressure
  • The stretch of attention
  • The quiet calculation of what “enough” looked like

And today, I see families facing the same question.
But with far fewer options.

📊 The Reality of Abortion in the U.S.

In 2023, there were over 1 million abortions in the United States.
The vast majority were not due to assault, trauma, or irresponsibility. They were due to:

  • 💼 Economic hardship — 73% said they simply couldn’t afford a baby
  • 👶 Already parenting — 61% had at least one child, 34% had two or more
  • ❤️ Relationship or partner issues — 48% said they lacked partner support
  • 🧠 Not ready — 32% felt unprepared for another child
  • ⚠️ Rape or incest — less than 1%

These are not statistics. These are stories.
And in those stories, many were deciding whether a third child could fit into a world with shrinking support.

🧠 A Thought That Changed My Perspective

What if we changed the system?
Not by banning abortion—but by removing the fear that leads to it?

Imagine this:
“If you are having your 3rd child or more,
the government will cover that child’s education
through college and provide tax relief for the family.”

That one shift could:

  • Remove fear from the decision
  • Encourage family growth where it’s already rooted
  • Replace punishment with policy that empowers

This isn’t fantasy—it’s common sense compassion.

💬 Why I’m Writing This Now

My daughter and I have had powerful conversations about this issue.
She’s passionate. She’s thoughtful. She’s right

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